Female Sexuality in Aging | Blog 12/15 in the series on Soulfull Aging
Aging often marks a sacred return for women — not a loss of power, but a reclamation of it.
As the body changes and hormonal tides shift, so too does the relationship to sexuality.
And for many, this opens a long-awaited portal: the chance to love their body, their desires, and their truth — on their own terms.
🔸 The Power of Reclamation
From Fertility to Freedom
For decades, a woman’s sexuality is often filtered through the lens of
-fertility,
-attractiveness, and
- service
shaped by cultural scripts that define value by youth, availability, or motherhood.
But when menopause enters, gently or dramatically, something deeper stirs:
A letting go.
A burning off.
A rewilding.
No longer called to prove or please, many women discover that their sensuality was never about anyone else.
It was always their own.Menopause becomes a threshold — not an end, but a reopening.
🔸 Shifting Desires, Awakening Body
After menopause, the body may change, though not for everyone in the same way. Possible changes include:
Less vaginal lubrication
Thinner skin and decreased elasticity
Libido that fluctuates — sometimes less, sometimes more
Heightened physical and emotional sensitivity
These changes can feel like obstacles at first. But with care, curiosity, and self-compassion, they become invitations to explore new forms of pleasure, deeper connection, and energetic flow.
Touch becomes sacred again.
Stillness becomes sensual.
And the inner fire — long buried under duty or shame — begins to rise.
🔸 A Personal Note on Energy and Balance
As a yogi and vegetarian/vegan, I’ve experienced my body slowing down, yet remaining balanced.
Even at 54+, I notice very little decline in libido or skin health.
At the basis of this was the ancient Eastern wisdom, such as :
1. Pure Food: Plant-based nutrition calms the system, balances hormones, and uses less energy.
2. Metaphysical practices, that hel keep our life energy youthful. Meditation and yoga help contain and (re)direct physical energy.
3. Saving your energy for your own life: I practiced celibacy from age 36 to 54 — and just like pauses in work or travel, this too brought balance. Preventing burn out due to routines without grounding.
Figure out what you align with: we each find our own rhythm, our own version of health and slow aging.
There’s no single path — but many doors.
🔸 Reclaiming Desire Without Apology
Desire in aging women is often ignored or dismissed.
Invisibility creeps in — not just socially, but sexually.
Yet under the surface, many women report a quiet liberation:
No longer defined by external validation
Releasing the need for performance in the presence of men or in competition with other female energies
Feeling more emotionally and spiritually attuned
Accessing clarity, sovereignty, and intuitive sensuality
This is not the loss of sexuality — It is its evolution into a higher consciousness, a higher Self.
🔸 The Dakini Archetype: Sensual Wisdom
In Eastern traditions, the Dakini is a feminine force of transformation, fierce love, and embodied truth.
She is the wild, untamed part of a woman who has shed illusion and now walks with wisdom.
An aging woman becomes Dakini when she:
Trusts her body, even when it changes
Speaks her truth, even when it trembles
Chooses only what feels sacred, nourishing, and true
🔸 Tools for Reconnection
Reclaiming sexuality doesn’t require a partner — it requires presence.
Simple practices to explore:
Self-touch rituals with oils, breath, and intention
Voicework to release shame and awaken inner truth
Movement: dance, yoga, pelvic work to re-ignite the root
Mirror work to meet your body with reverence
Above all: Listen to the body’s wisdom. She knows in the deeper layers of inner silence and inherent wisdom.
✍🏽 Reflection Prompt
“What would it mean to reclaim my sexuality as a sacred, sovereign part of who I am now — not who I was?”
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